A Generation of Love

Amidst the social media, the constant flow of information telling us what to think, what is IN and OUT, what is pretty or not, we get lost in the middle of it and we wonder where we are when we compare ourselves to it all.

Does not looking like a 6’ model make me ugly? Does it make me less lovable? Less desirable? Less fashionable?
Does it make her better than me? We are questioning ourselves constantly, feeling like we are not enough, because how can we be enough if we are so different.

We hate ourselves for not looking like them, and hate them for looking like they do. And we all become bullies. The anonymity of online forums encourages us to vent all our frustration and point the negative feelings in a hostile trend. We use harsh words against people; say things we would never be able to tell to each other’s faces, we use negative and destructive criticism, and let anger and aggression occupy a large percentage of our brain every single day.

What would happen if we stopped the comparison game?  If we look at ourselves in the mirror and start feeling blessed for all the features that make us special, different and beautiful in our own quirky way instead of being obsessed with what we call flaws.

What if you open a magazine and start looking at the celebrities and stars as the person next door, real people with real insecurities, appreciate how beautiful their eyes are, or their sense of style, or the self-confidence they project.

If we send loving thoughts and become compassionate to one another, we could actually change the world. I already made the conscious decision of changing mine at least, Because I want my niece to grow up in a placewhere she has the freedom to be herself, loving her body and all the things it does for her and appreciating every single thing that makes her so special.
I like how it feels to live in a kind atmosphere, in a thoughtful mind. Being benevolent to myself and others as much as I can, has made me realize how we are all made of the same matter, it gives peace to my life and it makes me powerful to feel I am in charge of the path I walk. And don’t get me wrong, I am not a monk, I still feel jealousy from time to time, but the difference is that I do not let it rule my thoughts, and do not let it transform into a sense of self incompetence.

Living this way has made me fearless of expressing my true self, of shining bright and unapologetically with my own truth. There will always be haters, but their existence no longer discourages me to try new things, to show myself and to be proud of who I am. As long as we do not threat each other’s freedoms, there is enough room for us all in this wide world; there is space for all our ideals to live respectfully in harmony. I do not have to agree with everyone and everyone does not have to agree with me, we can have intellectual disagreements that bring light to the issue. Let’s go back to the habit of debating with arguments and listening with open minds.

If we want something, call it flat abs, a healthy body, money, style, let’s work for it, do what we have to do to get it, eat right, exercise, be proud of the persons we are, of our roots and true essence, and let’s be inspired by those who already achieved the goals we are working towards.

Remember that there is a thing called free will. We are enabled to it and we should make use of it. If we do not like someone, because we don’t agree with his thoughts, ideals or life choices, be free to change the channel, block, unsubscribe, unfollow or unfriend,  there are so many options to simply do not get updates nowadays. We have the right to disagree, and we have the right to dispute, we have the right to discuss and we have the right to provide positive feedback, which is the one tool that always makes us improve and soar to new heights. But let’s not choose to destroy with our words, let’s use them as building blocks instead of ammunition, always thinking before writing, taking the time to analyze the impact our message will carry.

I want to be part of a generation of love and leave the bullies behind, substitute admiration for jealousy and inspiration for resentment. It is never too late to start pointing in a new, more positive direction in which we encourage instead of bring each other down.